Journey Through My Mental Space
My name is Gabriel, but I'm referred to as Gabby, Gabble, Gabs, Gabster, Gabe and more. Behind my smile lies insecurities, flaws, regrets, and more. Being 22 years of age, I wish I could clap my feet together like Dorothy and wish myself in the past, though. The young adult stage of life is nothing I would have ever anticipated. Yes, I'm known to be real goofy but its used to mask my pain. I can be an extreme introvert when I'm hurting & tend not to discuss what affects me until I'm ready. Music has become one of my outlets. I like to write to instrumentals and soon I will be purchasing a guitar to play because I love the acoustic melodies people can play! :)
As a teenager, I would be so quick to utter that I'm ready to be grown. Now that I look back on it, I would love to go back to the carefree days. As a plus size woman or bigger person then comes a lot of prejudice sometimes. People treat me differently and I've gotten stares before. It doesn't bother me as much now as it did when I was a teenager. My weight has bothered me because even people in my family & my friends would ridicule me. I've learned to love the skin I am while trying to maintain a healthy eating lifestyle.
People are so quick to judge what's on the surface and don't take time to truly dig below the surface. Everyone has layers, regardless if they know or not. I don't judge people for face-value because you can't truly see the person that is behind the face. People mistake me for being stuck up to me being quiet. What do you expect? I'm just meeting you, sheesh!
Another issue that has been maddening for me is people constantly asking me about work or guys trying to think I'm a downgrade version of an independent woman. First off, God has not blessed me with a job opportunity that will fit me. I want to be independent, I want to work, I want to explore career opportunities. It has been at the top of my stress factor list. Just because a person doesn't have a job, folks, does not make them lazy. Jobs don't fall in your lap for people; you have to put in WORK to get them, and WORK to keep them.
The love factor>> Nah, not in love and haven't ever truly been in love. Exes have come and gone but I've never reached that destination of love. I am and have been a hopeless romantic. With that has come me holding on to people in my life that I needed to cut out a long time ago. On twitter recently, I found this quote.... "Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together." This quote hit home for me because I've tried many times to put something back together because of fear of being alone when it was only hurting me in the process. I've only had 2 serious relationships, and to look back on them, they were a waste of my time, energy, and commitment. But, they both did teach me very valuable lessons on to love myself before I can love anyone else.
For anyone that knows me, knows I have a 14 month old nephew on whom I adore. I call him Junior Mint, because I'm just random but anywho, I never knew I could have so much love for someone. He knows when I'm upset, yet he always brings a smile to my face. He is truly an angel for me and my whole family. He is one of the things that cheers me up and makes me feel better with just his smile or giggle. My mom has also been someone who've i looked up to because of her battles with so many problems, she still finds a way to be a positive and my outlet when I need to talk!
For the TSMB/Mario fam: I love you chicas! Who'd ever thought I could confide in and find such amazing people. People from all over who support Trey but are people with daily problems and ones with great advice. Thanks to some of you who always had an encouraging word or reached out just to chat. It has meant a lot to me and don't think it hasn't been recognized.
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